Sure, dating can be fun and exciting, and if you are lucky, it can lead to true love. But meeting new people may not always be the best experience. You may either end up disappointed or heartbroken. But in the worst case, you may end up being scammed.
This is why some people hire relationship investigation services before taking things further with someone. Sure, others may say doing relationship background checks is not a good way to establish trust with a potential partner, but remember that trust is supposed to be earned!
If you feel you find it hard to trust the person you are seeing, or if you simply do not want to be wasting your time investing feelings in someone who does not have the best intentions, be safe rather than sorry by having a private investigator run a quick check on them. When would relationship background checks be necessary? Read on to learn more.
You need them investigated when...
You have much to give (and lose) financially
Facts are facts: if you have more in your wallet than the average person, you may find yourself seeing people who are only after your money. Relationship investigation services help you get to know a person outside of who they are in your relationship.
If what comes up after the investigation shows that they may be pretending to be in love with you to take advantage of you, then you would be in a perfect position to either confront them or cut them out of your life completely.
Of course, this is not to say that you should always let someone go when they seem to fit the profile of someone who’s after others’ money. They may actually have real feelings for you, they just happen to be in a bind when it comes to money. If you feel comfortable helping them out, that would be your choice – relationship background checks will only provide context.
You want to protect yourself as well as other people in your life
For some people, it isn’t money that is the issue. They simply want to make sure that everyone in their lives is safe, including and especially themselves. For example, if you are a divorced single mom, you want to make sure that the person you are dating and getting serious with would be good for your child.
Having a new person in your life can be exciting but risky as well, especially if you do not know the person so much. Running a background check will help you get the answers you need. If they have a history of domestic violence, alcoholism or drug addiction, crime, extreme debt, or other things that may put yourself and your children in harm’s way, you want to know early so you can cut ties with them sooner.
You are in a position of power
If you’re in a position of leadership at your organisation, in goverrnment, or elsewhere, it is likely that there are people out to get you. Relationship background checks or hiring a professional background service adds an extra layer of protection for you.
If you have secrets you are keeping or assets that need protecting, there are times when those who need to get ahold of these things target you through the most vulnerable aspect of your life – your love life. A quick background check should help you decide whether to proceed with seeing a person or not.
You feel you fit the profile of a dating scam target
Sure, anybody can be a victim of a dating scam, but there are several groups of people that have been targeted more often than others. Take catfishing scams, for example. When a scammer poses as another person (real or made-up) on an online dating website, that is referred to as catfishing.
The most common example of catfishing is when a scammer poses as an attractive young woman. They then target older men – usually divorced, single, in their mid-50s and up. They charm their target, convincing their target to believe that this young woman is interested in them – the scammer may even go as far as saying the “young woman” is already in love. Then, once they have captured their target’s trust and admiration, they then work out ways to get money from the target.
If you feel you fit the profile of a target and you are extra vulnerable to scams like this, it’s best to have the person you’re talking to investigated early. This way, you won’t be wasting any time, and your money and possessions will not be at risk.
You notice any signs of dishonesty
There are several signs of dating scams you need to look out for. Most dating scams happen online. If they refuse to show their face through a video call, or if they have plenty of excuses for why they are unable to meet you, it is highly likely that they are not who they say they are.
Even when you do not exactly fit the profile of a usual dating scam target, scammers may still be interested in you. While most scammers’ goal is usually to get money from you, not all scammers have that in mind. Others simply do it for fun – it is a sick way to entertain oneself, but it happens and we should be careful. Others may simply just be dishonest. They may be hiding a secret from you – for example, they might be married and don’t want you to know.
Your gut tells you something is off
When seeing someone new, there may be times when you would not be able to point out what exactly about this person doesn’t check out – but you are sure that something is off. If your gut is telling you that something smells fishy, have a relationship investigation performed as soon as possible.
If something comes up, you would be able to cut them loose immediately. If nothing comes up and they are clean, you can continue seeing them with full assurance that you’re safe.
Anytime you need relationship investigation services, Sticky Beaks Anon is here for you
If you don’t feel comfortable in your current relationship and you need an investigation performed on the person you are seeing right now, let the team at Sticky Beaks Anon know and we’ll jump into action soon after. Call us at 1300 882 433 or email us at info@stickybeaksanon.com.au.